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Ways to Manage Your Emotions and Improve Your Mood

Everyone can have a hard time controlling their emotional reactions sometimes — it’s part of being human. But if it happens often, these regulation tools may help. You’re going about a typical day when something changes. Suddenly, you feel overwhelmed, anxious, or out of control of your emotions.

Perhaps you’ve heard the usual self-help advice, like “pause and take a breath,” and the not-so-helpful advice like “just control yourself.” Yet somehow, you still feel like your emotions are in the driver’s seat while you’re sitting passenger. When this happens, it can help to remember your feelings are there for a reason. There is no such thing as a “bad” emotion. If possible, try to find gratitude for your feelings, as they contain valuable information. If you can, try to welcome emotions — all emotions — as your friend.

Here at CBT Dubai learn how to effectively manage your emotions, read on for some areas we will cover.

Self-regulation is the core of managing your emotions

Self-regulation is the ability to experience your thoughts, feelings and emotions and choose how you’re going to respond in a way that is positive for you and others.

Managing your emotions is a learned skill. Research, including a 2020 study, shows it begins forming in childhood through your relationship with your primary caregivers.

In fact, we are born without the ability to self-soothe. We rely on the nervous systems of our caregivers to restore balance, a process known as co-regulation, for example when we are distressed and dysregulated as babies, lying on our caregiver’s chest and syncing our breathing with theirs can help us calm down.

As we grow, the way our caregivers model emotional management, as well as the messages they give us about our emotions, can have a tremendous impact on how we understand our emotions and whether we believe we can handle them.

Teenagers and adults who did not experience a supportive environment in early childhood may have a more difficult time with emotional regulation. If this sounds like you, don’t despair. Several methods can help.

Deep breathing

When you feel overwhelmed with emotion, it’s not possible to think logically and feel your emotions at the same time due to the fight, flight, or freeze response kicking into high gear.

Your pulse is likely speeding up, your blood flow to your gut and kidneys slows down and adrenaline starts to surge. When you’re in this state, it’s difficult or impossible to process what other people are saying, let alone be aware of your own thoughts and emotions you’re in survival mode for a perceived threat.

Breath work can help. Research from 2018 shows that deep breathing activates the parasympathetic nervous system (your “rest-and-digest” mode), which allows your body to unwind and restore balance.

Sensory grounding

When emotions are running high, it may feel difficult to stay present in your body or physical environment. If possible, try to tune into your five senses to stay grounded.

This can include any number of grounding strategies, like splashing cold water on your face, singing or humming, or using a technique called progressive muscle relaxation.

Mindfulness activities

A 2019 study reported that a daily meditation practice of 13 minutes for 8 weeks helped improve peoples’ mood and emotional regulation, among other benefits.

Mindfulness has been shown to actually change matter in your brain. Our brains have neuroplasticity, which means that they can change and grow and adapt depending on how we use them.

If meditation isn’t your thing, you can also look into yoga, tai chi, gardening or something you enjoy doing for relaxation.

Practice accepting your emotions

All too often, we label emotions as “negative” or “bad.” This can create an added layer of shame or guilt when you’re already feeling emotionally charged. Instead, you might find it helpful to approach your feelings from a place of curiosity rather than judgment. This is called the “observer” mindset, or the state of allowing feelings to ebb and flow, like the tide.

When you notice your emotions arise, it can be useful to say to yourself, “Isn’t that interesting? I’m experiencing anger. I allow it to be here, and I will get through this.”

If you’re having a challenging time figuring out exactly what you’re feeling, you may find it helpful to: use a feeling chart or record yourself on your smartphone talking things through, then play it back for clues

Challenge your thoughts

If irrational thoughts are causing your emotional distress, you may find it helpful to challenge them using cognitive reappraisal (changing the narrative).

Some Cognitive Behaviour Techniques are useful, questions like: Is there any evidence that supports this? Are there times when this thought is not true? Will this matter a day/week/month/year from now?

Seek professional support

You don’t have to go through this alone. You may find it helpful to reach out to a therapist for support.

Therapy is an amazing place to work on this because we cannot see the whole picture when we are activated. We are only seeing a sliver of it. Here at CBT Dubai can help you unpack your triggers and work on any unresolved trauma that may be contributing to them.

Managing your emotions is a learned skill, it takes time and patience with consistence practice. While it may take some time and practice, it’s possible to self-regulate with different strategies, including deep breathing, accepting your emotions and seeking support from a trained professional.


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